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The Grad is Always Greener on the Other Side

The Grad is Always Greener on the Other Side

The following is a write up for a careers website related to recent graduates finding jobs and decreasing ones envy when others get jobs before oneself. 

Keeping up with the Jones’s and the concept of the grass being greener are embedded in our human DNA from way back in our caveman days. Competing for resources and securing the survival of our offspring had us looking at what others have and trying to decide if it was worth taking for ourselves. When our peers and friends achieve a status that we have yet to obtain, it puts us at a competitive disadvantage (even if it is in a completely different field) in our own minds.

The first step in coming to terms with the success of others is to recognize how the world does not revolve around us. Having some kind words for our friends and classmates that found their first or next job keeps us in a positive mindset, and can reframe our competitiveness into motivation for finding our own.

If your peer happens to be in the same job field as yourself, they may be able to put in a good word for you with the HR at their new company. Often it is who you know that gets you in the door, use your relationship for good and not evil.

Expand your networking outside of your close peer groups if you cannot deal with the short-term success of the people around you. No one likes a hater and passive aggression or pessimistic people are never fun to be around. When we are most envious or jealous, we should be listening instead of talking. Ask to take a look at their resumes and see how they presented themselves. Maybe you can take some pointers or steal some formatting if you think they put theirs together well. If you see that your marketing is actually better than theirs, you can feel good that you have something going for you that they did not.

Persistence in your own search will eventually carry you through the envy and find you employed alongside your mates. Keeping an optimistic mindset in each interview and communication with potential employers will be paramount. Celebrate the success of those around you as signs that your turn is coming soon.

Dr. Ethan Gregory


Author of I’m Sorry, You are Not a Pick-Up Artist and I’m Sorry, You are Not a Disney Princess

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Teaching? Come International

Teaching? Come International

I wrote this post for the ValuePenguin website, but my post was not chosen.

I have been a guidance counselor since 2008. Previous to working in education I was a social worker and therapist. I have not had one regret in my career transition. I would tell any graduating teacher or career changing professional to go international. I started in Shanghai at an international private school then moved to Japan for four years, and now I am back as a trainer for counselors near Shanghai. The classes are small, the parents are involved, and the resources are usually top notch.

Your salary will be similar or better to what it would be in your state, but there is the benefit of a package that really makes international schools a better alternative. The school sometimes covers taxes, decent housing is provided, your opportunities for travel are endless, and you ability to save (depending on where you work) can be nearly half of your salary. Most international schools want a certified teacher in their subject area and a few years experience. The schools also provide a flight allowance to send you home in the summer. Most contracts are two years to start, after that you can start to look around the world for your next adventure.

I would have considered education much sooner had I known I could save money, pay back my student loans and see the world. I finished a degree while overseas as well, and many schools give financial help for those wanting professional development.


Author of I’m Sorry, You are Not a Pick-Up Artist